Cuffing Season: What A Therapist Wants You To Know
Do you ever find yourself looking to boo-up as the fall season approaches? You just may be participating in the age-old tradition of “cuffing season”.
Cuffing season is that time of year when single people are thought to be searching for a partner to spend time with throughout the fall and winter.
The idea of cuffing season may be a trendy term, but there could actually be something more than the pop culture connotations that accompany it.
Humans are social creatures; as someone once told me - life would be very weird if we didn’t have anyone to share it with. It’s actually quite natural for us to seek out companionship, and it just may be that we have an increased urge or desire to seek companionship out in the fall and winter.
Here’s the thing that I want you to know: Cuffing season does not equal settling season.
Fall and winter are represented as the colder months, longer nights, and often an increase in family centered events. These events are often more challenging to navigate solo, and the companionship that goes with cuffing season can help to make these experiences easier.
Having standards and expectations when it comes to locking down that fall/winter boo can help protect your peace, save you time, and spare you the energy of investing in a connection that isn't going anywhere.
Knowing what you want makes it a lot easier to spot early whether someone's actually a good fit or just convenient company for the season.
Some things to consider this cuffing season:
What is it that you are actually looking for?
It’s valuable to know if you are just looking for a body to be there throughout the cooler months, vs. if you are looking for genuine connection.
What is the personal investment that you are willing to input?
What are you non-negotiables and negotiables when it comes to dating?
Even if that special someone is a special someone “for-now”, we still have standards and expectations. You’re a prize! Treat yourself like one.
Are you entering into a relationship that already has an expiry date?
Nothing wrong with it if you are, but it’s respectful to both yourself and others to be upfront about this. Uncuffing season can be just around the corner.
Could you do this solo?
Maybe consider if you even need to participate in cuffing season if you’re just doing it to have someone locked down for this time of year. What might it be like to support yourself through it?
If you’re out here trying to figure out love, dating, and relationships you’re not alone! Book a session with one of our therapists to talk more about what you’re looking for, and how to navigate this time of year.
