If You’re Reading This Someone Still Loves You But It’s Time for Tough Christmas Love: GO TO THERAPY
Hey beloved,
Someone really cares about you and wants you to feel lighter, and they’re also reaching the end of their rope.
It might be time for some hard truths, and tough love.
No, you don’t need fixing.
No, you don’t need to change.
What you need is accountability, and to start choosing yourself.
This holiday season, perhaps you asked someone what they would like for Christmas, and here is their answer: they would like for you to go the fuck to therapy.
Those words can be hard to read, I know. But trust me when I say that they are coming from a place of love.
It’s not a realistic expectation that we always be our best selves in relationships. What might be more realistic (and healthier) is being willing to be our honest selves, responsive selves, imperfect selves, and our accountable selves. Therapy can help you with all of these things.
Being in relationship also means knowing when you need to let someone go.
Here’s the thing - someone loves you enough that they aren’t ready to let you go. That’s where the tough love and the desire for accountability comes in. Someone wants you in their life, wants to be in yours, and wants to see you take care of yourself that badly.
That kind of love isn’t gentle. It’s not quiet. It doesn’t wrap itself up in politeness.
It draws a line and says: I care about you too much to keep pretending this isn’t hurting both of us.
Therapy isn’t a punishment. It’s a responsibility.
A way of saying, I’m willing to look at my patterns. I’m willing to sit with discomfort. I’m willing to stop asking the people I love to carry what isn’t theirs.
So if you’re reading this and feeling defensive, sad, angry, or called out… that makes sense. It might also be the clearest sign that something needs tending to.
This Christmas, the gift isn’t therapy itself. The gift is choosing to take yourself seriously enough to get help.
With care,
Someone who still loves you
…and wants this to be different this time.
You don’t have to do this alone, but you do have to choose it.
Book a consultation with Perdicou Psychotherapy when you’re ready to take the next step.
