Moms Make The Magic of Christmastime
This One’s For the “Magic Maker” Moms Who are Deeply Tired
Moms often do it all - but we’re not stomping around in our patent leather boots, and fur lined red velour suits.
No - the milk and cookies, the nice letters, and the songs, these are all reserved for representation of the patriarchy in a fat, white guy who allegedly gets away with countless B&E’s every year, jingling his way across the globe into all of our homes.
If you’re a mom, there’s a good chance the holidays feel less ✨magical✨ and more like project management with emotional labor sprinkled on top. You’re coordinating gifts, budgeting, traditions, schedules, meals, and everyone’s feelings, all while pretending you’re not completely overstimulated.
If you’re snapping more, crying in private, or fantasizing about disappearing into a quiet hotel room, you are not a bad mom. You’re a human mom in a season that asks way too much.
There’s an unspoken expectation that moms should create childhood magic effortlessly. But magic that comes from burnout isn’t sustainable.
Kids don’t need perfection.
Let me say that again, and really let it sink in this time: Kids don’t need perfection.
They need presence. They need safety. They need a regulated caregiver more than a flawless holiday. More than anything this holiday season, what your kids really need is just you.
You’re allowed to simplify. You’re allowed to lower the bar.
You’re allowed to enjoy the holidays too, not just manage them.
✨Therapist Tip✨
When you feel overwhelmed, ask yourself: “What am I doing out of obligation rather than alignment?”
Removing even one non-essential task can reduce emotional overload more than pushing through ever will.
If motherhood and the mental load feel especially heavy right now, therapy can be a place to put everything down for an hour with no performing, and no holding it together.
As the new year approaches, you’re allowed to choose support. You don’t have to do this season, or the next one, on empty. Reach out here to book a session with a therapist who gets it.
